Sunday, 20 May 2012

Morals of ethics.

It has recently  hit the news about the painting by artist Brett Murray  "The Spear for the first time" The painting is showing President Zuma half naked with his penis in display.
When I first heard the story before even seeing the picture I was shocked that people will go to that extent to show their creativity.
We live in a democratic country where we are free to have a freedom of expression but when does one draw the line to that expression?
In our constitution it says "all are free to have the freedom of expression as long as it does not cause harm to someone else"
In this case it has. President Jacob Zuma says he was “shocked, and felt personally ­offended and violated” when he saw a copy of artist Brett Murray’s painting The Spear for the first time.

The painting, which has divided public opinion in the country, ­depicts him as “a philanderer, a womaniser and one with no ­respect”, says Zuma.

In ethics we are taught that as a journalist we should be able to separate what is private and what is public and in this case his private life was violated. some say when you become president your life turns from being private to being public. That the public deserves to know , BUT in only matters that concerns the public.
I don't think that putting the presidents penis on display is counted as the right for the public to know.
We as the public tend to forget that although he is our president at the end of the day he is someones father.
Imagine if that was your father on that painting.
The freedom you enjoy does not give anyone weather you are rich or poor, black or white, the right or freedom to disrespect others.
The artist  commented by saying that the picture was a way to show corruption and nepotism. WTF????????!!!!!!!
IN what way is showing our presidents penis a way of corruption?
where does the corruption come in here?
In ethics we are taught that the morals and values that you are taught at home,school,and social settings is what makes you who you are. Clearly this guy did not have any of those when he was growing up.
I will not bring up the race card because this has nothing to do with race but UBUNTU!
When i first met the president in 2009 i was excited to go spend a day with him and his family. The first thing my parents told me was remember, although you are a journalist remember you are a child to him and he this is your father. respect him and humble yourself.
In my Zulu culture we are raised in a society that you don't need to be raised by your biological father in order to give another man respect . he is still your father and when approaching him you do not address him by his first name but say baba as a sign  of respect.
Where did those morals of ethics go in our country?
we are so quick to point fingers at the wrongs of others but yet we forget that the one finger you are pointing at someone else you have the other three fingers pointing back at yourself.
Many newspapers we so quick to post the picture as their front pages because they felt it was some way amusing but many others decided that they will not do that .
i would rather leave the story than have my dignity shamed like that.
I  sit and think did the artist think before doing this? what was going through his mind when he did this?
You might not like the president but it gives you no right to show him in that  way. there are other ways to show your frustration.
We forget that this man that people are shaming is the man who is representing our country and if other nations see this what would it say about our country? I know!, other countries will think we have no morals , we are barbarians who have no sense of UBUNTU.
We do not respect others which means we do not respect ourselves.
so to the artist , you have got spot light you wanted, but lost your dignity in the process. i hope you happy.
By me posting this picture I'm not saying in encouraging what is done but simply showing people what bad art work is.
Will Smith once said "Sometimes when you get angry you have the right to be angry ,but it doesn't give you the right to be cruel"  he also said, " People cant change the truth but the truth can change people" I hope the artist goes home to learn some morality.

signing out ;


Sunday, 13 May 2012

Mother's Day

First I would like to take this opportunity to thank all those who took time to wish me a Happy Mothers Day.
It felt so good to know that there are Friends and family who really care about me and appreciate my motherhood.
From when I woke up in the morning I was welcomed by so many lovely messages.
As a mother I realise that there we usually want to do things alone but we forget that there are people who love us dearly and are always here for us.
Even so shocking Ntokozos dad sent me a message to tell me how he appreciates the mothering I am giving to his daughter and unconditional love.
We might not be getting along but it really touched me I must say.
Being a mother is not easy. You have to be a parent 24hours of your everyday life. There are days where I would feel like I don't feel like being a mom but than I suck it up and love my child. There are days when I come home tired as ever and she would demand attention from me.
There are days where I  would have to yell and it would hurt me more than her.
 To me motherhood is still a learning experience and everyday I learn different things about being a mother.
there would be days where I would sit alone and cry because the world was becoming to heavy for me but than my girl would come and sit on me and put her hands on my face and simply say; mummy! and smile with me as though shes telling me that the world might be bad but you still my mom.
Today brought back memories when I first became a mother to my girl, the first time i held her, the first time i realised that i was a mother.
It was 5 October 2010 Tuesday morning at 8;30 in the theatre room at Parklane Netcare.
I think some people do not realise that giving birth is a line between life and death. For you to being told that you have given birth to a new human being is truly a blessing.
When the doctor first said to me congratulations you have a baby girl I cried tears of joy. People ask me why i named her ntokozo. shes is just my happiness.
I don't think i have ever loved the way i love my daughter. She might drive me mad but hey its motherhood.
 There is not book to tell you how to be the worlds greatest mom it just comes from within.
 When you see a great man remember that there is a women who was there for him every step of the way.
Although i was celebrating being a mother today i was appreciating my own mother.
Thembi khanyile.
My mother is my pillar of strength she is my ying to the yang. No matter what life may bring she was there through it all.
She made sure that i received the best life could bring .
she tells me everyday that zee even though you have a man who loves you and accepts your daughter there is no one who will love you the way your mother loves you. i may yell at you but it is because i love you and want only the best for you.
when i was in labour she was there for me and never left the ward. when i needed a friend she was a mother and held my hand every step of the way.
my mother puts her happiness on hold so that i may get the happiness i want.
my mother wakes up each morning and goes to work to make sure that my tomorrow is possible.
i wish mothers day was everyday that i get to thank her for all the wonderful work she has done for me.
but not everybody had the opportunity to thank their mothers because they had already lost them.
when i kneel down each night I pray to God to keep my mom for me so that i may get that chance to take care of her and show her how much i love her and the hard work she put in me has paid off.
So lets not wait for next years mothers day to tell our mothers how much they  mean to us , let us tell them everyday.

i love you mom!

Wednesday, 2 May 2012


Hi Guys,
Was driving to school the other day and was tuned into a local radio stations morning motivation. This is when everyday at 7 am the motivation speaker comes in a and gives people the word of the day.
I couldn't stop laughing while I was listening to this but also at the same time deep down in  myself I knew what pastor zondo was saying was true.
I blog today because i really would like to share it with you.
As we leave a relationship weather you are male or female we tend to undermine ourselves and loose our self esteems. This happens because one usually wonders why that certain relationship ended.
Well according to Zondo  he says that there is nothing wrong with you . God does not make you this way so that  you will not find love .
For instance if you use diesel in your car you wont go and want to mix diesel and petrol.
Those two do not go hand in hand but diesel and diesel go well.
Same thing with a relationship , you might not click with someone because they are just a diesel and you are the petrol. there is nothing wrong with who you are but the person you decided to mix yourself with.
He states that people can be together for more than 10 years and realise that they are two different things, and they should never blame each other because it took them so long so realise that  they are not fit for each other.
Ever wonder why one guy might not like you or your style but the next guy you meet might be madly in love with you?
Simple its the diesel and petrol thing.
He also stated that to be a hero you need to be a failure first . Nelson Mandela did not be who he is without failing in his life time.

We fail in life so that we get motivated and be stronger at the gift that you will receive next.
So  leave with my short blog today by saying keep your head up. weather you are a diesel or petrol you will find you match. Don't go pouring all kinds of petrol's not knowing that you use diesel.
don't let all sorts of  other diesels destroy your petrol tank because once its damaged it take allot to clean it and make it look new ........

signing out; BOSS LADY